Stopping your own success

I ran across this article yesterday from Inc. Magazine titled “5 Toxic Beliefs That Ruin Careers“.

Well, that’ll stop any professional and make them click to the full article. At first thought I figured the beliefs would be believing salary equals power, trusting no one can give your proper feedback, assuming that working the longest hours produces the best work…things along those lines.

I was extremely surprise by the listed beliefs, and this article really made me think about my own attitude towards my career.

(This list was originally posted by Inc. on June 11, 2012)

  1. My self-worth is based on what others think of me.
  2. My past equals my future
  3. My destiny is controlled by the supernatural
  4. My emotions accurately reflect objective reality.
  5. My goal is to be perfect or do something perfectly.

As a young professional slowly figuring out world and defining my goals every year – I needed to hear some things on this list. Three items really struck a chord with me.

1: My self-worth is based on what others think of me (remember, this is a TOXIC belief so the correct statement is “me self-worth is NOT based on what others think of me”).
-I think that in our society today it’s disgustingly easy to compare yourself with other people. And unfortunately, comparing skills and talent usually falls behind looks, fashion and over-all personality. It can be extremely intimidating finding your way in a new environment/culture when you don’t feel worthy. And sadly, in today’s world, we put so much emphasis on networking and connections. If the right people don’t like you or support your  career, it may take longer to accomplish your goals.

5: My goal is to be perfect or do something perfectly
– Yikes. This one really made me think. I will shout it from the mountaintops, I am a perfectionist. I like things organized and with matching colors. If I write a press release, a blog post or an article – I want it to perfect. BUT, as this article says, perfection isn’t real. You can strive to excel and be the best, but you will fail, constantly fail, if you are always striving for perfection. Find a happy, middle ground. 

3: My destiny is controlled by the supernatural.
-Again, because this is a belief is toxic, the article states that “destiny is not controlled my the supernatural.” I believe, and disbelieve, the statement (Everyone prepare themselves — I am going to talk about RELIGION!!). I think that God has a plan for everything and things will ALWAYS workout, but that is supported by handwork and dedication. You are not simply handed things as free gifts. I really liked that this article talked about luck and how that does not play into your life. I’m not embarrassed to admit this, ok, maybe slightly, but I do get excited when I see my lucky number. But at the end of the day – a number/sign in the sky doesn’t mean anything. You make you’re own luck.

 

As always – thanks for any feedback and comments!

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